Personal boundaries and Spiritual growth

I was first struck by the idea of maintaining personal boundaries by these words by Caroline Myss in her book, 'Sacred Contracts': "Learning to define your boundaries is a natural stage in the process of self-empowerment".

If we gain some clairty on our own self through works like 'The Heart of the Soul' by Gary Zukav such as it is with me, you can see your responsibilities and vows to others. Then you will find its possible to draw on your personal boundaries.

To me defining my boundaries with my loved ones primarily helps me define my boundaries with many others I relate to and encounter.

Sometimes it is a test of whether I can speak up for my self and not give in to the fears of the victim energy.
Honoring one's life is one's ground of definition for one's personal boundaries.
Given the life that we have, and honoring oneself with it is a divine truth.

I have noted in Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa's sayings that there is no limit to extending help to others, as I understand that help was on the physical level, like helping family members or extended family members by taking charge for them monetarily and so on. And the 'Great Swan' - Sri Ramakrishna - who is said to have His Being as pure as the white swan, is one Who talked about transcending the barriers of our senses in our journey toward authentic empowerment.

I think the one thing to keep in our heart is whether we are serving the spiritual needs of another or the needs of the ego of us or of others. Fulfilling spiritual needs is possible through unique ways - praying for the healing, nourishment and wellbeing of another, where it is a deep 'giving'. Ofcourse wherein we inturn are given.

While it is true that sharing and caring is a big part of our soul, drawing personal boundaries seems to me intimately connected to one's spiritual self and growth.